and u say he’s just a friend.
Posted by raaachem on May 11th, 2009
“guys and girls are only FRIENDS because the girl keeps it that way.” – James P.
u know those guys… the ones that u date that automatically assume ur fuckin around with EVERY guy u say hi to? those insecure guys who give every human born with a penis the evil eye as soon as u introduce him as your “friend”. the guys that are too paranoid that they go into ur phone and delete ever number attached with a masculine name. all the while, this same guy is takin out his homegirl to dinner cuz she just broke up with her man. ummm… WHAT?
why is it, that men cannot seem to fathom the idea that men and women can just be friends? or wait.. lemme rephrase that. they cannot comprehend the idea of their girlfriend having a platonic relationship with another man.
ok ok, sometimes guys are too much. and sometimes they swear their game is tight and we’ll just get swept off our feet. and sometimes they’re a little too agressive when they know they need to just back the fuck off. but has it ever occured to you gentlemen that we, as your women, will sometimes ALWAYS know when to put our foot down. that when another man says that we’re pretty, us saying “thank you” does not translate to “lets have sex.” that we dress up to go out, not to impress anyone else, but so that we don’t waste the pretty. “If you don’t want men calling your girlfriend pretty – date someone ugly.” – Hayati
male/female platonic relationships are possible. they are real, and they happen everyday.. and although in some cases, one person wants more out of the relationship than the other, most of the time when she says he’s just a friend, HE’S REALLY JUST A FRIEND.
and i know it goes both ways and we already know there are some scandalous ass females out there but this blog isnt about that.. we dont go around calling every woman in ur phone book askin her how she know u and if u guys have dated now do we? (or well.. i dont, at least)
and its crazy how that intro quote was said by a man.. cuz they swear we have all the power. and WE DO! we say no and we say when to go. (i swear having a vag badge puts u on top of the world).. but fellas can’t u TRUST ur women to do the right thing by you? we aint as shady as u’d like to believe. i promise.
so guys.. ease up on ur lady please! not only do u look crazy and insecure, but it brings ur pogi points down by at least 5. remember, ur still the one dickin her down at night. RELAX or you’ll head from “boyfriend” to “just a friend” in no time.
May 11th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
omg! thank you! ur so on point! my bf stay thinking that all my guy friends are just waiting around till me and him go through it so they can come up and hit me when im vulnerable, and to him it translates to me pulling down my pants! As if I’m too naive to see whats really going on and to say “no.” psssh!
May 11th, 2009 at 9:06 pm
damn rach’… how do you always seem to know what’s on every woman’s mind?!
May 12th, 2009 at 3:17 am
amen to that!
May 12th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Hahahahahahahahaha
Amen, woman!
May 12th, 2009 at 8:41 pm
just wow. you couldn’t have said it ANY better!
May 13th, 2009 at 10:55 am
cam men have platonic “hot” looking female friend?
or is this a setup to spite other gender out?
May 13th, 2009 at 5:55 pm
co-sign.
why the males believe that their girl is going to drop her pants as soon as he turns his head is beyond me. Yea i might say hi to homeboy but thats it. i left with you and if i didnt go home with you then i spent the entire night on the phone with your ass! so you tell me, when did i have time to give him the business? trust issues? SMH!
out.
May 13th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
ugh i know i said i’d comment on this but i can’t even write something cohesive without getting angry cuz we BOTH KNOW what the deal is with this topic haha. and to ric they definitely can, story of my life hahaha j/k
May 14th, 2009 at 1:08 am
thanks, real talk i needed that.
May 20th, 2009 at 9:36 am
wow, im in this exact situation right now! ha, he freaks out about all my guy friends, every single one- and he’s is the one who goes over to a girl *friends house to cheer her up cuz of her boy problems. For real if he can’t trust me, doesn’t that just mean he’s prolly screwing around himself at this point? God what a vicious immature cycle. Do these guys ever realize there’s such thing as a good girl out there?
February 20th, 2010 at 12:42 pm
I think it is time that the platonic friendship debate concludes. Platonic relations can indeed occur between man and wife or a hetero man and a hetero woman, platonic love between a man and woman is as romantic as physical love (or lust as this can be called by some). Both are romantic loves or attractions. Between men and women it is a state of flirtation. Flirtation is not always sexual. Maybe to the immature mind it is. One must understand the balance that makes a relationship work. Ignorance will only cloud one’s judgment and views. Platonic love does exist but it is widely misunderstood. Like sex, one can have multiple partners if one so chooses. Romance is a delicate balance of physical love and platonic love. Love based on merely sex is clearly not a mature love. The balance may vary but the romance is still there. Platonic love between a man and a woman vastly differs from platonic love between a parent and a child or platonic love between a human and it’s pet(s). Boundaries between a man and a woman are very delicate. Humanity is imperfect. We are all responsible for our own actions, decisions and beliefs and values and therefore our own consequences as well. We all want different things. It is important to clarify what platonic love is between man and woman(hetero) and the importance of clarification. A happy and successful relationship can be defined by its balance of platonic and physical love. After all it may prove to be difficult to find happiness and a strong connection with your partner if that friendship is not there. I will not touch on boundaries. Life is boundless if one so chooses it to be. I will not touch on the difference between right and wrong either. People make mistakes, some learn from them, some don’t and some don’t want to. People will do as they please. As I have said above people want different things and value different things. My purpose here is to clarify what platonic love truly is. It is a beautiful thing when completely understood. People will define boundaries according to their values and personal moral. Rather than debate one must educate them selves and be honest with them selves. A closed mind is not a mind open to truth and wisdom. Truth and wisdom will bring one to true enlightenment and a clear peace of mind. Sometimes in life one has to explore to find answers. One must under stand that truth may be spoken and maybe unspoken, seen or unseen. Mistakes do happen. Some risks are worth taking and some are not worth taking. Propaganda and mis-information closes the minds of many. How can one evolve as a person with a closed mind and the acceptance of reality? How can one be true with a partner if they are not truthful with self?
February 20th, 2010 at 12:45 pm
Really look at the common sense of it all. Of coure if a member of the opposite sex is making you feel good, maybe you should think about that one. And yea they will playkate you. Paranoid guy should ditch the confused girlfriend until she matures abit.
February 20th, 2010 at 12:48 pm
relationships are more than about sex. Your friend ship with your partner is very important. Can you see why guy friends are a precious boundary. To believe sex define attract and relationships is an immature look at what attraction between a man and woman is.